First, I have learned that as smart as you think you are in your 20's, you really don't even know yourself yet. You are still figuring out and deciding what kind of adult you are going to become, you are stuck between your teens and being a real grown up, you are still relying on your parents and friends and are just beginning to grow up. You think you know who you are but really you don't. Lifes responsibilites are just starting to hit you but at the same time if you really run into trouble you can always go back to mom and dad, grandma and grandpa or whomever you rely on for help.
Second, I have learned that the most important things in life is your family. Don't get me wrong I love my friends and some of my closest friends are like my family. But really at the end of the day your family is who has your back and they are who you should realy on and depend on when times get tough.
Third and most importantly, I have figured out what qualities/traits are most important to me. These are qualities that I admire in other people the most and the qualites that I want people to see in me and my children.
LoyaltyI am not sure if there is one that I find more important than the other, they are probably all equal. I strive every day to be that person. I try at all times to be loyal to those who love me, and that have my back, and I try to make sure that I can be honest with those that I love, if they have hurt me or if I have done something to upset them that we are honest with each other about it. If you and I are friends and if I know that you will always have my back when someone is talking about me or has hurt me I will be loyal to you to the end. On the other side of that is when I have a serious disagreement with someone or really have a strong opinion (and believe me I know my opinions can be strong) and I am sharing that with people as in "I cannot believe she did that, that was so wrong, yadda yadda yadda) I cannot then go to lunch with you the next day and pretend to be your friend. I know that might sound harsh but seriously, if I am talking smack about somebody and think that they are morally corrupt or have just made one bad decision after another I can't then go to Starbucks with them and talk about what they are doing this weekend. I just feel that is wrong. Consequently I have ended up with fewer and fewer friends as I get older because apparantely the general public does not share these opinions with me, and you know what that's ok too. These are just things that are important to me. I have my close circle of friends, those who I talk to every day/week of my life and those that I have known for 25 or 30 years that I can go months without speaking to but I know that they have my best interest at heart and they are always there for me and vice versa.
I am not out to win any popularity contests and at this point in my life I am not willing to compromise my beliefs to be a part of a group or to have more girlfriends to go to dinner with. I love the friends I have and am always willing to open my heart to new ones.... but only if I know we can support each other and have each others best interest at heart.
Finally I want to say that life is too short to live with regrets If you hurt someone say your sorry...if you miss someone call them, if you want to run a marathon... run it. If you have read my blog you know that I have lost many loved ones and most of them way before their time, I hope that when it's my time I go out knowing that I did my best to be a good person and to teach my girls to be good people. We all make mistakes and believe me I am far from perfect but I am learning every day how to be better.